Wednesday, July 25
This post is entitled I HATE THE TONGUE WAGGER!!!
I woke up to the sound of my mum's knocking on my door. She asked me to go and see who it is shouting outside the house. Hubby went instead of me, opened the door and saw TONGUE WAGGER N(neighbour upstairs) outside the door. Ketuk pintu mcm nak roboh sak rumah ku. And the very least she could do is kasi salam first, instead of knocking mcm gitu.
Hubby grumbled as he came into the room. He said "Pekik macam orang giler!" I was still sleepy from the lack of sleep so I asked him to ignore it.
When I woke up later,I heard mum talking to someone. The first time i heard it,it sounded like TONGUE WAGGER N but when i heard my brother's name I knew it had to be TONGUE WAGGER P(mum's elder sis).She was complaining about my brother.
Oh I forgot to tell that my brother has already begun working.Almost a month. I am glad that he is working, but i hated the fact that he worked with relatives. Especially relatives from TONGU WAGGER P family.I hate working with relatives.Except for a 2 week work stint with TONGUE WAGGER P's daughter in law, I have no other working experience with relatives.Oh wait ..i did.
It was in 2003. When TONGUE WAGGER P's grandson said that there is a job offering in his workplace as a production operator(same post as him).Being me,,i never chose jobs before. So when i went there to interview,looking at my O levels cert the manager gave me another job as a Lab Assistant. Kau...the TONGUE WAGGER P's grandson mata merah ajer.Lain kerja yang dia kasi,kain kerja yang ku dpt.Somemore a job of a higher post and better pay than his.Duk dlm lab,dlm office with air con whereas he is bounded downstairs where all the noisy machineries are and no air con.To me..it is rezeki that i got that job.Maybe indirectly it had to do with him but overall it is all in God's hands.
So..ok back to my brother.Apparently he has been assigned to a new driver.My brother works as a delivery assistant you see.And this new driver doesnt know the way around.Thus for the last 2 days,my brother has been coming home late.Instead of the normal 6pm,he reaches home around 8 plus - 9 plus pm.We didn't know that he was assigned to a new driver cos he never told us. It was only yesterday that he open his mouth to talk to my mum about this. About his fear of being bad mouthed cos the delivery orders weren't finished.We understand fully what he meant.Mum told him to tell TONGUE WAGGER P's grandson who was the asst supervisor there if he had any problems. But what my brother said is right - if he were to complain about it what would people think of him? Nanti it's like saying dekni keje skit berat takleh buat.
Well..that's my brother's side of the story.The thing is the TONGUE WAGGER P was trying to say just now was it IS my brother's fault.She keeps pin pointing that it's his fault blablablablabla. The thing is did she hear what my mum just said?
MY BROTHER HAS BEEN ASSIGNED TO A NEW DRIVER WHO DOESNT KNOW THE WAY AROUND AND THAT MY BROTHER HAS BEEN COMING HOME LATE FOR THE LAST 2 DAYS AND EVEN WITH WORKING EXTRA HOURS HE COULDN'T FINISH THE DELIVERY ORDERS.
Does she understands that? Instead of pin pointing and talking spare a little time to listen lah dammit!Ni lah susah keje dengan sedara...they think they fucking own the company..like they're some kinda big shots just cos they gave the job to us.She has the cheek to say that kalau my brother quits from here it would be hard for him to find job anywhere else.
WHO DOES SHE THINK SHE IS??GOD???THAT PINTU REZEKI IS IN HER HANDS???
Fuck lah..tis is the very reason I never wanted my brother to work with them.I objected any ideas my mum gave asking my brother to work wit them.I would rather he finds his own path instead of relying on people who action-baik-kasi-keje-tapi-hati-busuk-suka-ungkit2!!!But because he has been jobless for the last many months, i said why not give this a try? Cos he wont be working 24/7 with them.He just meets them masa tgh nak loading air dlm van ajer pastu the whole day tak jumpa muka pukimak dorang.
And now...my phone has been ringing everyday with them calling to check up on him,complaining about him telling me things i'm not interested in. From having no one knowing about my number to orang tahu and keep calling. I fucking hate this!! I only gave my number to certain relatives yang reliable,those i could really trust. It's making my mum more worried about my brother. Can't they leave us in peace??
It's the same thing that happen during my wedding preparations all over again. I took on the responsibilities of tfinding the mak andam,deco,etc2 cos i didnt want my mum to be stresses out. My mum couldn't handle stress well. Thus i did it on my own- tempah mak andam,etc2 smuer on my own money and my own liking.After all it IS me getting married on that day. What did they do ?? They came over and persuaded my mum to cancel whoever and whatever i have taken citing that it is expensive etc2. Kalau mahal pun ingat kita takde duit nak bayar ke pe ?? I told my mum tgk lah kita punyer majlis dorang nak suruh kai ni kai tu..make it simple nanti bila part anak2 dorang,anak2 sedara dorang they make it big. For sure,leh kerat jari lah if i'm lying. My mum as usual was taken in by their words. I wasn't, i called hubby(then future hubby) up and told him all about it from A - Z. He was the one who called them up, talked to them in a nice but very pedas way to ask them to back off from interfering in my preparations.
I still remember on dialogue hubby told me. TONGUE WAGGER B(tonguewagger p daughter,mother to u know who lah naj)
TONGUE WAGGER B : "Jadi sekarang Is kata Kak Bedah Kepo lah."
Hubby: "Saya tak cakap Kak Bedah kepo.Kak Bedah sendiri yang kata Kak Bedah kepo."
Man..this gets me everytime.Cos after hearing my hubby said those words, TONGUE WAGGER B kept quiet.Mcm terkena kat hidung sendiri kan..Suka aku..
So...that why i NEVER trust nor do i want to work with relatives esp from the TONGUE WAGGERS family. Mcm lah anak2 dorang baik sangat. It's like the pot calling the kettle black. And i hate it when people pin point mistakes that are like taik nyamuk whereas their faults a re more like taik gajah terselit kat kaki. Like hubby said : "DOrang nak ketawakan kita pasal kain kita berlubang,padahal tak tahu kain sendiri lubang besar nampak suar dlm."
I'm having a tummy ache.Been going in and out of the toilet for 4 times oredi today. Haiyeerr..what did i eat wrong? Was it because of the 4 pieces of cheese i ate for my midnight snack? eRrr...maybe.
Ok lah..nak pi makan.Mak masak lauk ayam masak merah with fried ladyfingers.yumm..
Cheerios!
Feathers
7/25/2007 02:37:00 PM
Monday, July 23
Okay...
These past few days has been hectic.
SAT - Date cancelled due to having to help out hubby cos his partner cancelled on him at the very last minute due to sum work probs. Called everyone we know but most were either tied up or working. Called up a few sedaras whom mula2 when asked if they're busy..said no. But bila bersuara pasal mintak tolong suddenly has plans they happen to forget. It's not like we're asking them for free. We'll be paying them. In fact 150 buckaroos for like a 5 hours job. So in the end, poor me had to help though i hated helping but thinking of the 50 bucks he would be paying me...tolong je lah,lagipun static camera mah. Tak buat apa2, just duk kat situ ajer man the camera. So yeah..instead of paying me 150, he paid me 50 bucks. What can I say ? Wifey mah..must give face. LoL. Reached home around 11 pm. Dead tired. Slept half way through MSN-ing with NaJj darlz.
SUN - I was supposed to help hubby but some last minute help came. And i was rescued by a 19 year old guy who was his partner's anak sedara. So yeah, instead of having to drag my ass out of bed at 8 am to go Bedok to shoot a Chinese Temple loktang prayer thingy, I got to sleep in. I only woke up at like around 5 pm. Yes that would tell you how tired I am. Normally i just follow him and take a few shots with the camera and get drinks for him when he appears so tired and busy. YES.that's what I do. Cos i know he wont have the time to eat once the majlis starts. A nikah could see him going on 4-5 hours without food. Imagine like you've not had ur bfast,lunch..and had to go on like till evening like that. So yeah..to people who don't understand please do. Cos i do not shake legs when i follow him around. I am like his personal assistant, his errand girl. During a Chinese Loktang thingy it's more worse cos a chinese loktang thingy can take place from 10 am till 8 pm non stop. Which means no toilet breaks, no drinks, no food. So how does it makes u feel if u were to work under the scorching sun(sometimes downpour) non stop? No bfast/no lunch/no dinner ? Fainty wouldn't it ? So there... I've explained it.It's so hard to make people understand.I know...trust me i do.I have experienced many cases of disbelief especially from friends,family and relatives. So for those who do not understand,kindly approach me to ask...Do NOt Pin Point ok! I hate it when that happens. Cos believe me ..i can MIA from people's life as easy as ABC. So do not provoke me till i have to do it again cos i hate losing contacts with people i love. But i also can't bear the hurt from the disbelief. So..pls pls pls...try to refrain from doing so. Pls give me respect and understanding just as I have always respected and understand other people's life.
MON(today) - I came back around 11 plus. Went to Alexandra to send Abg Sam's faulty lappy. And in the loooonnngggg bus ride(963) from Woodlands to Alexandra, guess what happen ? I was already giddy from the looonngg ride, trying to keep myself calm. Even though it was cold in the bus, I was sweating cos the giddiness cause a throbbing headache and i felt like vomitting. I manage to hold my vomit in from Bukit Panjang to Alexandra Road(one more bus stop reach the destination liao). I didnt wanna tell hubby cos you know how guys hate whiny gals. But i couldn't hold it in and vomitted in the bus. Yeah... SUPER GROSS!!!!!!! hahahaha..Got down and hailed a cab to HP Tower A to send i nthe faulty lappy, washed my feet and mouth in the toilet. I was okay with it. After that we head to Anchor Point cos i wanted to check something out but the whole basement was closed under renovation. So we headed over to the hawker centre to have our lunch before going to Queensway Shopping Centre to check out some clothings. Didnt saw anything that the both of us liked so we hailed a cab to go to Muhammadiyah cos hubby had some project to discuss with his ex colleague. After discussing about it, we didn't know where to go.Hubby wanted to go to Heeren whereas I wanted to go to Joo Chiat to find a dress and pay Ewin a visit. In the end we went to Jo Chiat to find me dress. Hubby bought 2 dresses for me. Yay! I lurps u so much!! Went to Ewin's shop but it was closed so we were walking aimlessly around Joo Chiat before stopping at the seafood makan place at Joo Chiat to have our dinner.
We had like nasi ayam with fried kailan with mushroom,chap chye and cockles(only hubby ate this one). Abg Sam came by later to help hubby finish up his cockles. Hahahaha.. then we headed home in Abg Sam's car. I was feeling okay lah, cos Abg Sam had the windows down after hubby told him about my vomitting accident. And i certainly felt better with all the fresh air blowing in my face and messing my hair up. LoL.
And now here i am blogging. Hahaha.. I'm resting from deejaying cos the other half has begun to complain that I spend time in front of the pc more than I talk to him. haha. so I'm resting it now. kwang kwang kwang. Sekarang addicted nak main game dress up lah plak kat net. ekekeke. mcm budak2...lol!!
Kat kat...tsk tsk*shake head*
Feathers
7/23/2007 11:58:00 PM
Monday, July 16
I can't wait to meet the Vanity Fair Sweethearts on the 21st!
Muakakakakakakakaka..
Pls stop Kat.
Feathers
7/16/2007 08:34:00 PM
The last 2 months has really been hectic. Weeks filled with sadness and angst.
Many loved ones passed on this month - Arwah Traz, Jejaka 21, my uncle Harun, Ewin's dad, my best friend June's dad and now my Pak Ngah has safely met his Creator yesterday morning at 9.20 am.I pray that his soul be blessed and he be placed with the people of faith.Amin.
It was saddening to see my Mak Ngah. At the age of 79, with her near blindness vision it was heart wrenching that when i hugged her before I went back yesterday she asked me who i was,i broke down. I cried. I hugged her,I kissed her hands and her forehead. The last time I saw her was a few weeks ago at my Uncle Harun's funeral. My Mak Ngah and arwah Pak Ngah were the most closest couple amongst my mum siblings. They would hold hands, they were each others guide. As my arwah Pak Ngah still has a pretty good vision and strong legs and my Mak Ngah has poor vision and she is 'bongkok', my Pak Ngah became her eyes and support. Almost 55 years of marriage and suddenly your soulmate pass away. It's like losing a part of you. It's like losing a limb.
My Mak Ngah told me not to forget her. I never will. I promise myself that. Sometimes I ask myself, what if the same thing happen to me and hubby? Can I be as strong as my Mak Ngah, my Cik Piah, Ewin's mum and June's mum? I try to put myself in their shoes and I know that I can never pull off something like what they had done. Show courage and strength even in their darkest hour. Hubby told me many times that if we were to pass on, he'd rather it be him to pass on first than me. Cos he couldn't bear to live without me. I had always thought that I can live without hubby. But now, I am beginning to think that I am not up to it. I leave that in the hands of the Almighty. I will try to be as courageful and as strong as all the wonderful women in my life have been.
On a lighter note, a week ago my dad said that he wants to listen to the Ipod Nano he found. I had uploaded some old songs into it. And guess what? Cute lah sey, he was humming/singing the song Andainya Aku Pergi Dulu by The Alleycats but its all out of tune. And he doesn't know the lyrics so he was just humming and singing it all wrongly and differently. Me and my brother laughed our asses off in the kitchen. Sometimes as much as he piss us off he is still our father. And there has been time where he is awfully sweet.
Sometimes I think that life is simply too precious to life it hating other people. But sometimes we can't stop hating people. It's not because we want to... it's them who created a rift between them and us. So how do we deal with this feeling? As for me, I don't really pay attention to haters. And when i hate someone, I won't even as much as talk to them or want to know about them. I'm no poser but when the time comes, oh yeah I can be a snake with 10 million faces. hehe. The haters I have now are the clan of tongue waggers who are family. I salam them, I smile cos I was just looking after my parents' waterface. I do not wanna be labelled as kurang ajar or mak bapak tak didik jadi manusia punya orang. I wanna uplift my parents' pride and name. I'm not like them who salam me with a muka tak suka. I smile cos senyum tu kan sedekah, anggap kita bersedekah pada orang yg tak mampu nak senyum. It is a pahala kan ? And well to the extremist haters, I simply brush them off. I do not need them. Who needs haters when you're surrounded by lovers? Betul tak ?
Well.. life is too short. And i choose to love...never hate. I choose to embrace the people around me and most of all at this age, i am utmost first and foreall looking for friends..never enemies.
To those who messed or want to mess with me... pls stop. I don't entertain such antics. And ultimately, it's way beyond our age limit to be playing these kinda games. And once you have messed and ruffled my feathers, you know that it would take just a short while for me to ruffle yours and turn it into a big ball of unnamed thingy. Lol.
Can't wait for the 21st. Yummy... Al Ameen.. miLo dinosauR...ice Cream praTa...yummmm...
Lapar lah,nak pi makan!!
Outs!!
Feathers
7/16/2007 06:20:00 PM
Thursday, July 12
"Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity. "
-Kahlil Gibran
What is the definiton of friendship?
Some webs might say that friendship is an in-depth relationship. Friendship is comfortable and relaxed. Friendship requires meeting the needs of both friends.But how often is it that we meet someone who understands us, someone who meets our requirement ?
Over the last 25 years of my life, I've come across real good friends, a few friends who were there temporarily in my life just passing by, friends who shared laughter and pain, jokes and jeers. I've severed ties with some friends, not because of my wanting but because they wanted it. I know that I should not have agreed but I did.
To me, I need a friend who understands me. And when I say that I'm not ready to tell, the friend understands and doesn't accuse me of not trusting him/her. Of all things, trust is important to me. I can never have a friendship with someone untrustworthy. I also cannot be friends with someone who are selfish and think of themselves beyond others.
Building friendship takes time. Talking and listening builds friendships. Friendships require equality and loyalty from friends. Some say that friendship has to be a relationship in which constant contact is required. To me, that is not really necessary. As long as you think of the person constantly, do occasional meet-ups then there should be no problem in any relationships. Being in a freindship doesn't mean it allows you space into your friends private life nor does it gives you the right to harbour over them. Friendship has to be about giving them space,letting them grow.
Having been in a few relationships which are toxic to me,it's sometime s is hard to differentiate loyal friends and toxic friends.Because one you have been hurt by a friend,you tend to have questions and doubts. Backstabbing is one of the major flaws in relationships. Why do most of us refrain from some friends after we got to know of it ? It's cos the trust we entrusted in them is gone. How do you trust someone who doesn't know how to keep a secret?
Some friendships are spoiled when the best friend/good friend goes out with the guy you liked behind your back. I mean,if they are honest enough it's either they'll tell you or they will simply decline the guy's offer knowing of your feelings towards him. Well, I've came across that too when I was way much younger. It hurts but at the end of the day, friends stay on and boyfriends don't. Heh.
Real and true friendship involves freedom of choice, accountability, truth, and forgiveness. Till this very day I am able to forgive my friends for the hurt they cause. I refrain from hurting them and when I do, I apologise. Real friendship looks at the heart, not just the "packaging." Genuine friendship loves for love's sake, not just for what it can get in return. True friendship is both challenging and exciting. It risks, it overlooks faults, and it loves unconditionally, but it also involves being truthful, even though it may hurt.
So the question remains: What type of friend do you want to be?
Who do you know who needs a true friend today?
Befriend that person cos you might never know what a journey in life he/she might bring you to.
"Generosity is giving more than you can, and pride is taking less than you need. "
Feathers
7/12/2007 01:25:00 PM
Tuesday, July 10
Hey Hey.. I'm backs!!
hAhAhA..Kat ni mcm betol je nak withdraw from blogging...
Anyways let me begin my updates with this few pics
Ni kalu TP nampak..habis sak !!
Muka serius sak smuer ..
Concentrate dok...hahahaha...
Group Pic 1
Dlm toilet pun jadi amik pic
Yummy!!
Satay
The Sting Ray
The Chili Crab
Group Pic 2
Group Pic 3
ULU ULU RESTAURANT
I met up with a group of people...Fellow chatters from Ewah2
. Though I've met NaJj a few times, last Saturaday was my first time meeting Faizul, Feer, AdeQ and adeQ's bf, naZ. Initial plan to meet up in Town area was change last minute to Yishun's Starbuck. (heartbeat pumped up.u noe i noe public dunnoe k naJj)
I adore the people.So the farnie and so the best! Super best lah. Superb food along with great company is just simply blissful. I would have recommended Ben & Jerry if I hadn't been too full to the max.
So next outing is on 21st...pls pls pls be free. I'll try to make myself free on that day. I can't promise much but I will try ok. I recommend kita pergi JB CITY SQUARE pls.. fig & olive pls.Want to go to the SG one but looking at it...we can get the same type of food but at half the price. And Syana gave 4 half stars to Fig & Olive... so it has to be good kan ???
So what say you? Fig & Olive JB? Donut Factory Marina?Newton?Lau Pa Sat?? LoL ..
Feer,Faizul,Najj,adeQ & Naz pls be free on that day !
Feathers
7/10/2007 01:55:00 PM
